Extreme Holidays - extreme holidays

Resolved Question: Lower Abdomen pain? Lupus related or not? What else could it be?

I am just wondering if anyone else has any ideas of what i should do next because i am out of ideas and very fustrated! I have not been well for about a year and a half and the doctors have recently said i have a "lupus type condition" although my ANA is negative still. (Hand, joint pain, muscle pain, extreme fatigue, no energy, hair loss, rash on face if sun hits it etc....) I was given plaquenil but couldnt tolerate the sickness, depression, and was given a few steriod injections. have now been changed to chloroquine, which i have to start soon. My other problems started in june last year, i went on holiday to spain and got really really severe abdominal cramps (i have a decent pain threshold and have never felt anything like it) with some diareha and nausea. The spanish doc came out and thought it was gastrointeritis and sent me into hospital by ambulance. The docs their did an ultra sound and he said it was a "very deep seated bowl infection." It radiated across my abdomen but was especially on the lower right and left side, just over the hip bones. I was flying home that night and he really didnt want me flying but we couldnt stay, he discharged me on the promise i would go straight into hospital when i got home. I dont know how i got through the flight, i was lying on the airport floor at one point! Anyway got home, pain relief was well wearing of by then and was in chronic pain, the cramps made my lower stomach feel like it was going to explode with pain. After being admitted their they did their possess tests and said gastrointerisis or food posioning etc. I went home and after 2 weeks of hardly eating it seemed to have completely went, although it trigered a massive flare up of my joints. i thought that was the end of it. About 6 weeks later i got the same pain one morning although slightly sharper, it eased slightly when i used the bathroom but then within an hour got excruitating. It seemed to be on the lower right side now. I went to A + E they gave me morphone fluids etc. Doc said my ESR was up and my CRP was 26. He said it was "bowel inflamtion" Told me to carry on taking antiinflamatories and my gp refered me to Gastro Consultant. Anway to clip a long story short and a few other admisions to A+E for similar reasons I still have this pain, it hit me today totally out of the blue and had me on the floor. They did an ultrasound to rule out kidney stones etc, my doc also wants scan done to rule out cyst. After being admitted the 2nd time my doc gave me a ream of antibiotics because i had blood, protein and white cells in urine, she thought maybe UTI, after i finished the first course i had about 5 days completely sympton free! However they returned and i am on a 2 week course now again that seem to be doing nothing this time.i have also had random pain once in kidney area? The gastro consultant wanted to do the camera thing but i put it off because i would like a scan done first, i have had so many wonderful little procedures to diagnosie "inflammtion" and they never do! So i am waiting to hear from them. The rematologist has said its highly unlikely its related to lupus? Is this true? Any info anyone could give me would be so nuch appreciated as i cam completely at my wits end!!!! Thank You

7 Jan 2012, 4:54 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Is to much exercise stopping my period?

Hi there :) Well, long story short, I exercise a lot. As in, a lot. I'm an irish dancer, and I train for fitness, but also to keep a good body. I'm scared if I miss a day I'll just receive unfit, or gain weight. But I know it dosent work this way anyway. Last year I started dieting, and although I'm not anorexic or anything, I was eating way to little, even though it was healthy food. Usually, my training program is around *at least* 1 hour of physical activity a day. Last year it was: Monday : half hour run, 2 hours dancing (which is like, extreme cardio, and running and stomach crunches. lol). Tuesday: hour at the gym, half an hour skipping or dancing. Wednesday : hour of sport, 2 hours dancing Thursday: an hour of dancing/running. Friday: 80 mins at the gym, plus skipping ect. Saturday: 40min bike ride, 2 hours dancing. Sunday: 40minute run, dancing for an hour, skipping for 15 mins. Some weeks I'd be doing at least 14hours of cardio exercise a week. In the holidays, I'd run for around 40 mins, swim for at least half an hour, and then skip for 20mins, and do an hour zumba class. At the moment, we dont have dancing, but I run for 40 mins, and do around 20mins of skipping, and 10 minutes of stomach crunches. I'm 16, and I weigh around 55kg, and I'm 1.75m tall. I havent had my period since about a month before last xmas. I dont have ANY boobs. I dont want to cease exercising because I'll just receive unfit. Help ): I just want to be normal.

7 Jan 2012, 2:57 am | click here to view more

Voting Question: Could someone translate this into french for me?

In the holidays me and my family went to the abel tasman for a holiday at the beach in the sun. Unfortunately there was a lot of rain and every of our tents got wet. every the rain meant that the road got closed and we couldn't steer back, forcing us to boat home to dunedin. This year my goals for french are to work harder and achieve better results than last year. PLEASE SOMEONE TRANSLATE THIS IN TO FRENCH FOR ME! I will adore you forever, I would do it myself but I am below extreme time pressure so don't judge me! And yes I look the irony in me saying I want to improve my french even though I'm getting someone to do it for me, help would be much appreciated :)

31 Jan 2012, 11:44 pm | click here to view more

Voting Question: Split personality crisis!?

I've always been a strong minded person but not when it comes to personality. I've always been one to change who I want to be, but to extremes, whether it's being extremely girly and perfect or indie and a bit rough round the edges. Thing is, both of those things seem appealing to me but I'm neither or and it's so difficult for me, especially when looking at clothes and thinking about the holiday, because I'll want to wear pretty dresses but I think that if I was indie then I wouldn't wear girly things. Also, I'm booked in to receive 3 more ear piercings on Wednesday (cartilage included) and that's not girly girl either and omg I don't know what to do, I'm so immature, I know, I'm 15.

31 Jan 2012, 10:03 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Extreme cat trouble, advice needed.?

Just to make sure everyone knows - Yes, this is serious. I live in rural mid-west Iowa in a tiny town. I'm currently single and live alone, apart from the American Shorthair I possess (it's a female). Her name is Roxy. I've had the cat since October of last year, and for the first couple months I had some problems disciplining the cat, that is, getting it to go to the bathroom in the litterbox, not excessively scratch the furniture, etc. Roxy has always had plenty of perching space, and has plenty of toys. For the first few months I just tried to appease her and wish that she would settle down. During the Holidays she stepped a little too far, though. I brought a date back to my home and the minute the lady walked in my cat leaped at her, scratching the crap out of her leg. I had to tug her off and toss her into her cage (which I hadn't put her in up until this point). Needless to say, my date wasn't too glad and left. I obviously wasn't very glad about this and decided to keep her (my cat) in her cage for a week. To be clear, I let her out for food, bathroom, took her on walks several times a day, etc. I have not abused my cat. Once I did this for about a week I let her out of the cage for a more permanent basis. During the first day she was behaved, much to my surprise, very well. I didn't have to force to use the litter box, she didn't scratch anything, she was oddly calm. Now this is where it gets weird, and I repeat, this isn't a joke. When I came home from work at around 5 in the evening, the next day , I found her sitting in her cage. I thought it must have just been out of habit from the past week. I tried to receive her to arrive out, but no luck. I eventually just put her food and water right outside her cage and went to bed. I'm a pretty light sleeper and usually wake up several times during the night. This night, when I woke up and was about to receive out of bed, I noticed Roxy sitting on the end of the bed and staring at me. It startled me quite a bit... I went to the bathroom and got back in bed, and Roxy didn't move a muscle. She kept staring at me. I went back to snooze and in the morning when I woke up she back in her cage, asleep (by this point i had put her bedding in it since she seems insistent on sleeping in it). This pattern continued in the same way until about two weeks ago. At this point, I was awoken by Roxy hissing. I tried to pet her and calm her down but she jumped off the bed away from and started hissing even more, obviously agitated at something. I chased her out of my room and closed the door, but right after I closed it Roxy started clawing the wall very loudly and quick. I eventually opened the door back up and let her arrive back in. She kept hissing at me for a while but eventually resumed her usual position at the foot of the bed, watching me. It was at this point I decided to videotape her. The next night I set up a camera facing towards where she usually sits. Sure enough, a few minutes after I had fallen snooze she went to the foot of the bed. She sat/lied down, watching me for a couple hours until a little after 1 in the morning. At this point she left the room and went out of the cameras view. The next night I decided I would look where she went after this, and I did. I looked around the home and couldnt find her anywhere inside. I eventually checked the backyard ( I have a pet door installed leading to it). I didn't look her anywhere in the yard, but I did hear some noises coming from an empty shed a couple hundred yards off of my property. I grabbed a flashlight and started walking out towards it but as I got about 50 yards away from the shed I saw what looked like 5-6 cats rush out of shed and run away! During the next day I put my video camera in the shed and left it so I could look what was going on at night. quick forward to the next day, when I went check the recording. Sure enough, at 1:20 PM I saw my cat enter the picture. Inside the shed is a old wooden table and some shelving units on the surrounding walls, but nothing else. Roxy jumped up onto the table and sat down, not moving. In the following 3 minutes I saw SEVEN other cats enter the shed!!! Most of them jumped on the shelving units, but none of them sat on the table like Roxy. Once there were the 8 cats, Roxy began shuffling around and making weird, throat noises. The cats would occasionally meow back in not quite, but close, unison. This went on in the tape for a few minutes, but then my recorder started making a beeping noise because of a low battery. Immediatly the cats rushed at my recorder and knocked it over, clawing at it for a about half a minute. After that the tape goes silent and black, and then the battery dies shortly after. The next night I got up at 1 to go out to the shed. I swung my legs out of the bed and almost stepped on two STEAK KNIFES that were on the floor next to my bed! I know this sounds crazy but I didn't put them th Sorry guys, it clip me off after 5000 characters. I was almost at the end of the story thus far anyways. The point is, I sure as HELL didn't put two steak knifes on the ground where I put my feet when I receive out of bed. I haven't even used any of my steak knifes for god knows how long, certainly not since before I got Roxy. I don't really believe in the supernatural but it sure as hell seems like a demon or something has gotten into my cat. I swear this isn't normal behavior. I've owned two cats before this and haven't had any of these problems. Ever since the knife incident I've locked the cat up at night. It now hisses at me WHENEVER it sees me. When I let it out of the cage it runs away from me. I'm considering taking it into the vet but I'm afraid that they won't take whats been happening seriously... I'm in the process of editing the videos ( to clip out the "dead" time), and then uploading them to youtube. Once they're up

30 Jan 2012, 1:03 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Does he have any feelings ?

Hey, so I was crushing on this guy like about half a year now . And I frequently text with him during the school days . And now are actually the Holidays , PS its been already a month since school and school starts on JAN 4 . I haven't been really texting with him . And One day , went I was like DYING to look for him HE ACTUALLY TEXTED ME ! For the first time !! I WAS SUPER glad !! He was on a family trip and texted me if I could look this TEXT . While I was like still IN EXTREME HAPPINESS my pal took my phone and started texted in . But she discussed it with me first so I was okay with it . She texted in '' AWWW..You miss me and im listening to your FAV tune now .'' He texted '' what tune ? xD '' SO I WAS HEYYY HE CHANGED THE SUBJECT !!! and went EMO at the corner of the ROOM. LOL I know ! But I felt very insecure about it . So my pal helped me texted '' HEY ! DONT CHANGE THE SUBJECT ! So you dont miss ??! FINE ! '' I LAUGHED ! and both of us were like staring at my phone . AND HE REPLIED ! '' Yes I do xD '' he said he missed me . ;3 I was kinda shy and my pal started to said '' uuuuuuu'' and I was like IS this for real ? That was abt 2 weeks ago and the other day he texted me again . Saying '' hey :) '' so we started texting and suddenly he ditched me . Then later that he texted me back saying sorry was texting with his pal . So I said you ditched me :/ '' He replied saying Im so sorry !! What can I do to make you forgive me ? '' AND MY DAD CALLED ME and he sent two messages again saying '' hey '' '' hey '' . So after helping my dad I texted back so I waited and no answer . The next day I woke up with his text . So yea I told him what could he do . Im gonna skip .SO On Christmas , I texted him at 12.am and he said '' merry xmas and he need to go to snooze and asked if we could text in the morning . I did send him one text saying '' heyyyyy' the other day but no answer so he continues with OH NO ! I forgot to text you back that day x.x . END } And that was the last time we TEXT . So Im very confused . Does he have any feelings for me ? Its so difficult to tell . :( But one thing's for sure His past GF broke his heart , and I thought like I don't know that he doesn't trust any girl now . SIGH . Can someone help me ? Im so messed up now . :/

30 Dec 2011, 9:50 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Why am i not losing weight? long?

So before i ask this i should probably give some of my health history. Im 17 years old, 5'6 and 135 lbs. Basically, i was always on the skinnier side, and grade 9 i started working out, and since I've been 5'6 I've basically hovered around 123-5 lbs. But about 8 months ago, i started eating less and keeping a food journal, which led to anorexia. It was more of an eating disorder roller coaster because i would try different diets and quick. Basically i would deprive myself which would guide to a binge, which i would then try to negate by exercising to the point of passing out. The weight loss wasn't to extreme because i never went below 100 lbs, but during this i still hovered around 110. A few months ago i started eating normally again but i stayed away from exercise for a bit because i was afraid it would trigger anorexia. Eating normally was a challenge in itself because i felt so deprived it was difficult to keep myself from eating in the first couple of weeks. I eventually went back to my normal eating habits but because my metabolism had slowed down so much, my weight quickly jumped up to 137 lbs, and its now hovering at 134 lbs. So thats basically the history of it. Now, I'm trying to go back down to 125 lbs, so for about 7 weeks I've been working out for about 40 minutes 5-6 days a week (cardio and resistance). My eating habits still need to be changed because after anorexia, i now have a craving for tardy night eating, sweets and such but i try to keep carbs to a minimum and eat plenty of protein. Despite every this, my weight hasn't budged! During the holidays my eating wasn't so great, but i still continued working out, and it only lasted for 1-2 weeks, so how arrive my weight isn't changing? I have a body fat percentage monitor and my BF% is almost 30% and i really need to receive it down! Its been at 30% for 3 months now and it isn't changing, and neither is the number on the scale! Any advice would be much appreciated! Thank you. *My tardy night eating i probably around 200 calories, sorry i didn't specify but its not a daily thing, more like once a week i'll feel like a snack tardy at night. Im not restricting calories at every, I'm staying away from counting them but I'm eating plenty.

3 Jan 2012, 7:18 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Is it bizarre that an older family member has taken an extreme liking to my child, who is 8?

Longer story, but there is a 20 year old cousin that has taken a liking to my child, whom is 8. Guess I never really had a problem with it until I realized that he wasn't hanging around or socializing with NOONE, except her. He has no friends, and no desire to have any. He is a pretty "square" person. Very anti...well, everything! I have very open communication with my child and when I said that it was a little bizarre, and I wasn't 100% comfortable with it...she started to sob saying "Mom, I'm his only pal. He really likes me, I don't want to hurt his feelings." She has spent the night at their home before and is very very fond of her aunt and uncle (very chilly people). My problem now is that during the holidays she asked me, in front of the aunt and uncle if she could stay... I said we'll talk about when, later. Now I'm getting emails constantly from the son asking when can she arrive, again...and his parents saying she can arrive, whenever. I'm like going back and forth in my head about this. Am I the only one who finds this weird?!?! If I bring up this fact to the parents, I think they will FLIP and there will no longer be a relationship. Thoughts??

3 Jan 2012, 4:26 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: clingy long distance boyfriend?! what should i do?

Okay, we have been dating for almost 4 months, i've known him for about 7 months. I live in NJ and he lives in PA. I look him a good amount, but the past 2 times i've seen him were the first times we've been together at parties and group things together. First was my best friends surprise party ( he and i are in a big group of mutual friends), we had both talked about not kissing and being real cuddly and touchy in front of everyone cause i didn't want to and i knew some people, including me, would be uncomfortable. But at the party it was okay at first, then he started being touchy, like it was a little but it was the way he was touching me like just rubbing my ankle if i was on the sofa and he was on the floor next to me, like little things that bothered me and he wouldn't take hints that i didn't want him doing those things. and every time i got up.. he would receive up and follow me. Granted i was really sick and he wanted to comfort me or whatever it was looked bad and it was really clingy when id receive up in the middle of a movie and he'd arrive running after me.. i told him repeatedly to cease doing things and he wouldn't, and he acts really childish in front of people. i talked to my pal about it and she thought it was cause i was sick and her little brother was being really flirty and it made my bf a little jealous. the second was that me and my family went away to PA after Christmas for a stress free holiday and he was invited to arrive spend days with us (he lived 20 mins away and not over night) i was really worried cause my brothers are harsh and kinda mean but they are chilly ad my bf is kinda dorky but that's what i adore about him! so i was worried that things wouldn't go so well.... and they didn't he was really touchy in the pool both times we went in and when we would sit down on the sofa he would be touchy and i kept pushing him away especially when someone would walk in cause it just wasn't a good idea. then the last night we were there he ended up sleeping over and we were watching a movie and he kept wanting to hold my hand and it had nothing to do with who was there cause no one was, i just didn't want to hold hands with anyone and he didn't receive the point so i just pushed him away and said that im having a claustrophobic moment and i need some space and he was totally fine with it, although he took it to extremes a little like if our foots touched by accident he pulled his away and said sorry. every my sisters were saying that he's touchy and i agree, i don't know if it's cause we don't look each other a ton but lately we have. maybe cause he and his mom have been fighting a lot. he doesn't have any brothers only two sisters, i'm 17 and he's 20. i adore him, and he loves me. i just need to know how to talk to him about this to make it better and should i wait until i look him in person in a few weeks? or should i just talk to him about it asap. and if you have any advice on how to ask him to be more mature around my brothers and family that would help. i feel like he got really comfortable with them really quick and he like told me brother in law to close up jokingly but i feel like things receive taken too far. any and every advice is welcome! please dont think im a horrid person! i just want to make this work! thank you!!!

29 Dec 2011, 8:42 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Extreme increase in the amount of gas this week. What the heck is going on?

I very rarely ever pass gas. They say a normal person passes gas between 10-20 times a day (it's more like 100 times for my husband lol) but I seriously might pass gas once a day. Just tonight alone in the past 3 hours I must have farted like 10 times, not exaggerating. Last night my husband and I were watching tv and he was seriously shocked as he hadn't heard me pass gas in a few years now. I know it's no big deal...it happens and that's not my point. It's just why so much every of a sudden? I haven't changed any eating habits even with the holidays. We have been trying to conceive and I read that is a common symptom of early pregnancy, and I do have other symptoms (mild cramping and sore breasts) but the gas is completely new to me. Other than pregnancy, what would cause someone to have so much more gas than normal?

29 Dec 2011, 2:44 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Thoughts on the Proactiv system?

I've always been a bit skeptical about their product but lately I've ben seeing commercials with their holiday deal of free shipping and what not so I'm thinking about giving this a try. I know we every have different skin types, but I just want to know, from any of your experiences, of whether I should try the system or not... I have mild acne, nothing extreme. Spots here and there, lately I've been breaking out more than usual but I believe it's due to the environment change (from the town my university's in and back to my hometown).. I have sensitive, oily skin.. Does it work? Thanks for your help in advance. I don't really want recommendations at the moment of any other products...

29 Dec 2011, 1:09 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: why is my mum vomiting, help?

So yeah it's just after Christmas now and we had family over today. None of them are or were sick recently my auntie has felt sick but hasn't been sick but that was a couple of weeks ago and I felt the same but obviously it isn't that. It's just after 3am she came downstairs asking why the lights were on, went into the bathroom and threw up (I don't think it was very violent, she wasn't running to the toilet and she was only in there for around five minutes if that I could hear her, she came out quite quickly and tried to insist she was just going to the toilet when clearly she wasn't she was throwing up. She then went straight back up stairs I did ask why she was sick and she said she might have eaten too much (she has eaten rather a lot these past couple of days as it is the holidays and she has put a lot of food out, some of which being pasta salad the stuff with mayonaise) which had been sitting there out of the fridge for a few hours in the kitchen with the relax of the food. Neither me nor my dad have been sick or felt sick (yet?) she didn't even receive any water or anything to drink. Could this have been over eating or something worse, I know about the norovirus which is quite violent repetitive vomiting I doubt if it was that because she has only been a bit sick once. What could have caused this? will my dad and I be okay? please answer I have a very extreme fear of vomiting it is my worst phobia don't call me stupid because you can't understand unless you have a bad phobia and especially one of vomiting. Help? oh no she's being sick again, help me I feel so panicked!!!!

29 Dec 2011, 10:42 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: What's that magic trick that you swear by for losing weight?

Okay holidays you gained lets say 5-10 pounds and you want to just melt those suckers off, got any tips you swear by? I know some people do a juice or veggie cleanse, some drink a gallon of water a day, some drink extra black coffee, so what's your tip? (try not to be sarcastic or too extreme)

28 Jan 2012, 8:07 pm | click here to view more

Voting Question: If I stopped eating meat, would I lose weight?

For Lent, which is a religious 40 day holiday leading up to Easter, I am planning on giving up meat. Would I lose weight in this 40 day span? How much? I have horrible eating habits that involve much junk food, sweets, and no exercise. This is probably due to the fact that I am 15 and teens are notorious for bad eating habits. I weigh 185 and am 5 foot tall. Also, in addition to no meat whatsoever(I already do not eat fish), I am going to eat better and in moderation, but not to an extreme. I also plan on moving a little more. I am not doing this solely for weight loss, I am mostly doing this to show God I am trying to be good to my body. So how much weight do you believe I would lose? *Please no mean religious comments! :)

28 Dec 2011, 5:31 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Feel very sad with memories lately. How can I overcome this?

I don't know if it's just been the holiday season, but I feel unhappy with thinking about two people whom I was extremely close to, and loved very dearly who have gone to heaven. These two people were my paternal grandparents. My grandfather died nearly six years ago and my grandmother, it will be a year in February. Since their deaths, I have been accepted into university where I have studied so far for half a year (I am twenty-one and hav finished community college) and I am Catholic and am in the process of making my confirmation in April. But I remember my cousin and myself always being with my grandparents before and after school while our parents worked (they lived in the same town and nearly right next to us) and were a big part of our upbringing as well. They would make meals for us, care for us when we were sick, tell us stories, make us giggle, and take us to mass. As well as watching movies with us. I can hardly think about my grandparents without getting a little misty-eyed and sometimes I sob. I sob because I would give anything in the world to look them one last time, and have one final hug. I loved my grandparents so much and it hurts so much they never got to share in my joy in getting into university and won't ever be able to attend my confirmation or college graduation, which they most definitely would have. I feel so unhappy about this and yes, I do know this is part of life but please, what can I do to heal this sadness? Is this too extreme of emotions I am having? Thank you!

28 Dec 2011, 2:14 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: my mum groundes me for nothing :(?

ok now, i used to take meds for my adhd, im 14 years old boy,i have EXTREME anxiety ok so i was taking stratteta and i got side effects - SICK / FATIGUE / sleepy / SLEEPY, AND DEAD, so i refused to take it, so the i went to doctors for new ones, when i went there, they said that the meds i take causes anxety, so then my mum said watch then you receive home, so she groundes me, so then i have to go church , i dident really want to but i had to because i wanted the lap top to ask this question, so they said every the meds for add cause sickness anxiety, so i said yes but, doctors says, i dont think you should because he might receive worser, so i came home, next thing i know she takes the laptop off me, and im not allowed out the home, and there was friday holiday yesterday, and my mum takes the sky off at 10 o clock, :( what should i do, my mum doesent even let me date, and i cant find a girl :(

27 Jan 2012, 2:50 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Proof: Pacquiao or Mayweather PPV King? Here are the facts?

By John F. McKenna (McJack): World Boxing Organization (WBO) welterweight champion Manny Pacquiao (54-3-2, 38 KO’s) has topped WBC welterweight champion Floyd Mayweather Jr. (42-0, 26 KO’s) in Pay Per View (PPV) buys for his last three fights. In addition Pacquiao’s live gate attendance far exceeds Mayweather during the same time span. Manny’s last battle in November against Juan Manuel Marquez drew 1.41 million PPV buys, while Floyd’s battle last September against Victor Ortiz drew 1.25 PPV buys. Floyd’s battle with Marquez in 2009 drew 1 million PPV buys. Pacquiao’s battle with Antonio Margarito in 2010 drew 1.5 million PPV buys, while Mayweather’s battle Shane Mosley drew 1.4 million PPV buys. Despite Mosley being perceived as a shot fighter, Pacquiao drew 1.3 million PPV buys in their May 2011 battle. In total Pacquiao’s last three fights have drawn 3.86 million PPV buys, while Mayweather’s last three fights have pulled in 3.65 million PPV buys. In summation Pacquiao drew in 210,000 more PPV buys than Mayweather did. When you take into account the higher number of PPV buys that Pacquiao’s fights have drawn it translates into a chilly $10,000,000 in cash. It is true that the Floyd Mayweather – Oscar De La Hoya battle in May 2007 drew a record 2.4 million PPV hits. Many boxing observers largely attribute the high PPV numbers in that battle to the extreme popularity of the Golden Boy, Oscar De La Hoya and the fact that it was held on the Cinco De Mayo holiday. But Pacquiao’s recent higher PPV numbers only tell part of the story. In the same three fights Pacquiao sold out the venues, while Mayweather’s last three fights were not sold out. In addition, when Manny Pacquiao fights at the MGM Grand Arena in Las Vegas a significantly higher number of high rollers from Asia fly into Vegas for his fights. The economic impact in Las Vegas for a Pacquiao battle far outstrips that of any other fighter. In a study by CSE, an integrated sports and marketing firm, Pacquiao is one of only two boxers in the 2012 Power Rankings of the most powerful athletes in the world. Manny is ranked at number 28. Mayweather is ranked 49th in the same study. Both on and off field accomplishments are taken into account in the rankings. Endorsements and media presence figure heavily in the rankings. So Floydiots and Flomos, what's your excuse now? Let's hear your new excuses and accusations.

27 Jan 2012, 12:01 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Want to know Real Iran apart from what the western media says?

Here is what Angela Corrias (a freelance journalist) wrote about Iran in her blog.... She's an Italian girl who has already traveled to Iran and returned to her country after a few days: "The first thing tourists will notice as soon as they venture out of Tehran’s airport is the hectic traffic, pretty much like in every other city. Feeling a little more familiar immersed in daily routine, travellers can defy their possess inner feelings with greater ease before actually landing in Iran. Despite global perception, Iranians don’t really look oppressed, and the capital appears as busy as the typical modern metropolis with every sorts of cars darting back and forth, and commuters waiting for their bus. If part of the Western media landscape indulges in detailed explanations of how oppressed Iranians are, it will probably take no more than an hour, and not much attention, to understand that the natives of Iran, like everybody else, wake up in the morning to go to work or college, or to go shopping or any other leisurely activities they like. Similarly it won’t take long, even to the lesser informed traveller, to understand that Iranian women are not confined to the kitchen, but rather, to study and work as much as their male counterparts showing great ambition. In a nutshell, it’s easy to understand that our media’s distorted reporting is simply that – distorted reporting. Conceiving of Iran requires thinking outside of the box, of being fully aware of the distorted mainstream media images often given. Despite this, I travelled somehow preoccupied, with the nice of stress that fades away only when you set foot on a new land. Going to Iran, tourists will face an unexpected welcoming, an unbearably fascinating culture; natives who adore barraging their guests with questions about their opinions on Iran, and about their possess countries’ lifestyles.... Iranian society is one that inevitably lures you off the beaten track, one that makes you sense those ancestral elements that you long to unearth, one that makes you beg for more at every step. Sanctions have had the effect of encouraging the local economy, pushing Iranian companies to produce their possess goods, with the obvious result of rewarding tourists with comforting authenticity instead of the run-of-the-mill KFC. I was fortunate enough not to limit my stay to the capital and ventured to ancient villages such as Kashan and Abyaneh, dating back thousands of years. And it was precisely when wandering through the tangled streets of ancient towns that I wondered how it is possible that the media is capable of influencing people’s perception on countries to the extent that they prevent us from planning a holiday to undoubtedly interesting destinations? More pointedly, a hungry media and the rhetoric of desperate politicians, promotes to the extreme the untrue idea of a clash of civilisations, and this is not bound to achieve anything good – not for Iran, nor for the relax of the world."

27 Dec 2011, 2:32 pm | click here to view more

Voting Question: I like a guy but I just have no confidence to talk to him?

I've liked a guy (a lot!) for about 10 months now. I'm almost 15 and he's 16. He's shown some signs of interest, like he stares at me, and we make eye contact a lot. We also grin at each other sometimes. He's really outgoing and confident where as I'm silent and shy, therefore I have difficulty talking to him because I feel as if I'm making a fool out of my self. When we have talked before, I've blushed to the extreme and said some stupid things because I'm so nervous. I was wondering if anyone had any ideas on how to be more confident when talking to him and what to say? I'm planning on talking to him after the holidays. Thank you! :)

27 Dec 2011, 1:39 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Ankle sprain without swelling?

I rolled my ankle outwards two days ago. It hurted for a minute or so and then I could walk normally. By later in the day I was in extreme pain and I still couldn't put any weight on it, but it's not swelling It's more likely to be a sprain? I'm doing the RICE method I can't go to the doctor because it's closed for christmas holidays until wednesday

26 Dec 2011, 3:02 pm | click here to view more

Voting Question: My Girlfriend Cheated on me? Please Help ASAP?

Ok well here is what happend. I recently got out of the Military and she has been faithful the whole time. I know this because i had my friends watch her. Anyways we have been dating for a year and a half and i adore this girl with every my heart i even gave her a promise ring. We livetogather and have a dog. Anyways she went back home for the holiday week while i stayed away and worked. She was being distant with me and then when i got home today she seemed really nervus such as hiding her phone which she has never done before.... She never lied to me before and never acted this way. When she fell asleep i looked at her phone and saw she was texting and talking about kissing this guy for the last 3 days. They first kissed after drinking then continued to do so afterwords. She even kissed him the day i was driving home. (they did not go further then that im 100% sure of it) i confronted her and she cried adn told me everything and this is the first time i ever saw her this way. She told me how they have been kissing and flirting and even made plans to look each other after i went back to work. But now she is pleeding with me it ment nothing that she will leave with me and never talk to this guy again. My biggest problem though is that she cannot give me a answer if she has feelings for him or not. Being in the military with PTSD i have extreme anger issues and want to take a baseball bat to his head... Please help me before i do something stupid.... adn sorry for the bad spelling and format im just in a rush. Also he know i was dating her the whole time and still continued to do so. The thing is this girl meens the world to me.. With my PTSD i was in a very very dark place (contemplated sucide) and she was the only one to tug me out of it and keep me from myself.

24 Dec 2011, 6:59 am | click here to view more

Voting Question: Extreme pain in tooth weeks after a filling?

A couple weeks ago I got a filling done but ever since then the tooth has been giving me alot of pain so much pain that it's difficult to snooze at night. And since its the holidays the dentist will be closed for a couple weeks, what do I do?

24 Dec 2011, 2:07 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: OCD - I really need some advice on this one...Please leave me some suggestions?

I'm a gay guy that has really grown fond of this guy I met. Here's the issue. I have extreme OCD and I am an extreme minimalist because of it, but I'm very functional and have become comfortable with it. I'm a clean freak and have adjusted comfortably to minimalist decor and dealing with the OCD. The guy I like is a total clutter bug with $hit every over his home and collects every kinds of memorabilia of sorts and it drives me absolutely freaking nuts to be at his home. I've told him about my personal issues and he seems responsive to it, but I don't feel it's fair to him that I don't want to be at his home or even in his car (crap every over it too) I accept that my issues are the problem here, but when we're out, at my home or in my car everything is so awesome. How can I deal with this? Any suggestions? glad Holidays Everyone :)

24 Dec 2011, 1:57 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: would you help answer these 3 questions in this sentence /of course 10pts?

What had I gotten myself into? The short answer was that I was trekking to Kala patar, a 5,545-meter "hill" that is said to give the best view of Mr. Everest without having to climb it. I'd arrive seeking an "extreme holiday" where I'd trace the steps of Sir Edmund Hillary and bring away a sense of accomplishment. Q1, what does "'d' in "I'd arrive" mean here? would or had? Q2, is this 'where' can be replaced with 'when'? Q3, what does "d' in "I'd trace" mean here? thank you!

23 Jan 2012, 9:19 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: ENG: would you help answer these 3 questions in this sentence?

What had I gotten myself into? The short answer was that I was trekking to Kala patar, a 5,545-meter "hill" that is said to give the best view of Mr. Everest without having to climb it. I'd arrive seeking an "extreme holiday" where I'd trace the steps of Sir Edmund Hillary and bring away a sense of accomplishment. Q1, what does "'d' in "I'd arrive" mean here? would or had? Q2, is this 'where' can be replaced with 'when'? Q3, what does "d' in "I'd trace" mean here? thank you!

23 Jan 2012, 9:18 am | click here to view more

Voting Question: I new an extreme diet!? Please help.?

I have two different holidays to spain this year. Im sooo over weight(well i think)? Im almost 12 rock or someting, 15 years old and around 5'3. I have 8 months, i need a diet i can stick at and which is extreme!

23 Jan 2012, 1:17 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Symptoms of cancer including lumps?

Lately I have been having some extreme migraines. These started about 4 months ago. I am very photo-sensitive and light causes the frontal lobe, or just front of my head, to throb and my stomach to become queasy. Sound makes the direct back of my head to pound. I have also had some severe depressional moods (I think I made up a word there, but bear with me). Today, my mom found a tiny, very difficult lump at the back of my head. It's just over the neck in the direct back, where your head creates a little valley where your spinal cord and brain would connect. Would any nice of lump like this be caused by cancer? Would symptoms of cancer include mood swings, migraines and depression? I know that I should receive this checked immediately, I'm very worried, but I fear since it is the holiday season, I will not be able to receive this checked until after the New Year. I'm 15 years old, I don't know if age matters but I'm trying to describe this as best as I can, and I am physically fit. Can anyone please help guess at what these symptoms or lump could be? Thank you.

23 Dec 2011, 8:03 pm | click here to view more

Voting Question: Boyfriend with weird behavior ?

Hi. My bf and I have been together 2 years and engaged 1. We moved to another city a year ago but wanted to spend Christmas in the town where we used to live and where my family live as well. We are staying in a hotel. Yesterday morning around 7:45am he felt sick and I offered to go to the pharmacy to receive him something and he said yes and also some breakfast. He has been texting/emailing ppl from work he said, I asked the favor not to work during our trip. Ok when I was out I texted him asking something, he didn't respond, I drove back and he called me and hung up, then called me again asking where I was, I was almost there and he said ok. And he never calls asking that. I got to the room and he was every sweating looking like nervous and I asked what's going on he said that ppl from Wk don't cease calling and said really? This early? In holidays? that's why he didn't respond my text. I didn't believe it since it was earlier than normal for work, he was acting weird like not him, I'm thinking he wanted to know where I was so he knows how far I was to have a chance to call somebody and he looked guilty. I think he called some girl, I sat upset saying we had an agreement about not working and he said he felt so terrible about it like apologizing so extreme just for a call. He wrote "I adore u" on a note pad and he asked me what does it say? And I was like what?? He never but never does that and my gut feeling is that he felt guilty about something and almost got cough. That's why the sweating. Do you think that's a guilt reaction or it's my imagination? We went later to the dentist and he was going to pay. He said he was going to wait for me and when I finished with dentist he wasn't there and I texted him asking where he was but didn't respond. He got there saying he was on another call with his boss BS! He paid and we left. I asked him why everything is happening when I'm not around and he got upset saying he doesn't know and if I was accusing him of something..

23 Dec 2011, 7:31 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Do you walk your dogs when you are sick?

Just curious. Theirs a nasty icy going around my family and I got it --of course i'm always been sick on every holiday since the time I was born haha. I walked my dog 3 miles the first day I got it and 3 miles the second day. Now i'm just feeling horrible so he most likely is going to miss out on a walk today..depends on how I feel tonight. I know some people who say you should walk your dog no matter how you feel or no matter what the weather, but my opinion is that is extreme your dog will live if it misses a walk or two. Do you walk your dog when you are feeling really sick?? BQ: What weather do you like walking your dog in the most?

23 Dec 2011, 5:47 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Contemplating suicide? Help?

Hey everyone, first I'd like to wish you every a glad Holiday. I'm 21, and I've dealt with depression for the past 3 years. For the past year, it's been severe. Before I became depressed, I had a gorgeous girlfriend in highschool, I had friends, and a good life every around. Along with depression, I suffer from OCD. Since I was young, I've had to deal with a grandfather who was an alcoholic. He'd receive wasted drunk & soil him pants after coming home from the bar (both ways). Just now infact, I was downstairs getting a drink while barefoot & had to maneuver around his urine trail on the kitchen floor. In the past I've even stepped in it on occasion. So in the past year (being that I have OCD) I've also pretty much thrown out every article of clothing I owned due to believing it was 'contaminated'. From what? I have no idea. So I'm (literally) left with one outfit that I've worn for the past year, the same jeans, socks, underwear, T-shirts & hoodie. I only possess one pair of underwear, socks, and jeans. They are washed with each use, but I still feel like a scumbag wearing the same outfit everyday but I have no choice because I don't have any money, and I threw every my clothes out. Last December I attempted to be Tim "The Toolman" Taylor and patch a 6 foot crack along the bottom of my wall with Kitchen/Bath caulking. I used silent alot. As it cured, or 'dried' it let out fumes and they have sunk into EVERYTHING in my room. Clothes, bedding, you name it. I hate sleeping in my bed anymore because it smells of the caulk, and when I wake up I odor like it also. It's been this way for a year, and I cannot stand it anymore. I hate going to bed. I'm afraid I'm going to receive cancer or another illness because I spend alot of my time in my room, as I did when it was curing also. I also have Sebborheic Dermatitis on my face. It causes me nose area to become BRIGHT red & scaly. This makes my depression alot worse as it creates a social anxiety that is so extreme I cannot even look people in their eyes. I believe I also have the same thing on my penis (I've read it can occur there also). Life is falling so far away from me, it's becoming a struggle to live it anymore. If you have ever felt this way & know what I mean, you know just how scary a feeling it truly is. I do not look joy in life anymore. I do not look the worth of my life anymore, and I just want it to end now. Christmas is in two days & I cannot even stress how much I truly do not care. The best gift I can ever receive is for this mess of a life to be taken away from me. I don't even have money to buy my mom a gift this Christmas. I don't wish to commit suicide, in fact the thought of it alone scares me terribly. I don't WANT to die. I want the life that I had before depression to be given back to me, but I don't believe that's going to happen. I'm 21, I have no job, no friends (well, I have my best pal since early childhood). Everyday I have to hear from my parents "You're 21, receive up & do something with your life, you need to receive a job". They just don't understand how many problems I have that I need to work through before I can even comprehend getting a job. I wish people understood just how debilitating depression truly is, but most don't. Does anyone have ANY advice that I'd be able to use & apply to my life? Thank you guys, and glad Holidays. Please, help me.

23 Dec 2011, 5:22 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Contemplating suicide? help?

Hey everyone, first I'd like to wish you every a glad Holiday. I'm 21, and I've dealt with depression for the past 3 years. For the past year, it's been severe. Before I became depressed, I had a gorgeous girlfriend in highschool, I had friends, and a good life every around. Along with depression, I suffer from OCD. Since I was young, I've had to deal with a grandfather who was an alcoholic. He'd receive wasted drunk & soil him pants after coming home from the bar (both ways). Just now infact, I was downstairs getting a drink while barefoot & had to maneuver around his urine trail on the kitchen floor. In the past I've even stepped in it on occasion. So in the past year (being that I have OCD) I've also pretty much thrown out every article of clothing I owned due to believing it was 'contaminated'. From what? I have no idea. So I'm (literally) left with one outfit that I've worn for the past year, the same jeans, socks, underwear, T-shirts & hoodie. I only possess one pair of underwear, socks, and jeans. They are washed with each use, but I still feel like a scumbag wearing the same outfit everyday but I have no choice because I don't have any money, and I threw every my clothes out. Last December I attempted to be Tim "The Toolman" Taylor and patch a 6 foot crack along the bottom of my wall with Kitchen/Bath caulking. I used silent alot. As it cured, or 'dried' it let out fumes and they have sunk into EVERYTHING in my room. Clothes, bedding, you name it. I hate sleeping in my bed anymore because it smells of the caulk, and when I wake up I odor like it also. It's been this way for a year, and I cannot stand it anymore. I hate going to bed. I'm afraid I'm going to receive cancer or another illness because I spend alot of my time in my room, as I did when it was curing also. I also have Sebborheic Dermatitis on my face. It causes me nose area to become BRIGHT red & scaly. This makes my depression alot worse as it creates a social anxiety that is so extreme I cannot even look people in their eyes. I believe I also have the same thing on my penis (I've read it can occur there also). Life is falling so far away from me, it's becoming a struggle to live it anymore. If you have ever felt this way & know what I mean, you know just how scary a feeling it truly is. I do not look joy in life anymore. I do not look the worth of my life anymore, and I just want it to end now. Christmas is in two days & I cannot even stress how much I truly do not care. The best gift I can ever receive is for this mess of a life to be taken away from me. I don't even have money to buy my mom a gift this Christmas. I don't wish to commit suicide, in fact the thought of it alone scares me terribly. I don't WANT to die. I want the life that I had before depression to be given back to me, but I don't believe that's going to happen. I'm 21, I have no job, no friends (well, I have my best pal since early childhood). Everyday I have to hear from my parents "You're 21, receive up & do something with your life, you need to receive a job". They just don't understand how many problems I have that I need to work through before I can even comprehend getting a job. I wish people understood just how debilitating depression truly is, but most don't. Does anyone have ANY advice that I'd be able to use & apply to my life? Thank you guys, and glad Holidays. Please, help me.

23 Dec 2011, 5:08 pm | click here to view more

Voting Question: Contemplating suicide? Can someone help?

Hey everyone, first I'd like to wish you every a glad Holiday. I'm 21, and I've dealt with depression for the past 3 years. For the past year, it's been severe. Before I became depressed, I had a gorgeous girlfriend in highschool, I had friends, and a good life every around. Along with depression, I suffer from OCD. Since I was young, I've had to deal with a grandfather who was an alcoholic. He'd receive wasted drunk & soil him pants after coming home from the bar (both ways). Just now infact, I was downstairs getting a drink while barefoot & had to maneuver around his urine trail on the kitchen floor. In the past I've even stepped in it on occasion. So in the past year (being that I have OCD) I've also pretty much thrown out every article of clothing I owned due to believing it was 'contaminated'. From what? I have no idea. So I'm (literally) left with one outfit that I've worn for the past year, the same jeans, socks, underwear, T-shirts & hoodie. I only possess one pair of underwear, socks, and jeans. They are washed with each use, but I still feel like a scumbag wearing the same outfit everyday but I have no choice because I don't have any money, and I threw every my clothes out. Last December I attempted to be Tim "The Toolman" Taylor and patch a 6 foot crack along the bottom of my wall with Kitchen/Bath caulking. I used silent alot. As it cured, or 'dried' it let out fumes and they have sunk into EVERYTHING in my room. Clothes, bedding, you name it. I hate sleeping in my bed anymore because it smells of the caulk, and when I wake up I odor like it also. It's been this way for a year, and I cannot stand it anymore. I hate going to bed. I'm afraid I'm going to receive cancer or another illness because I spend alot of my time in my room, as I did when it was curing also. I also have Sebborheic Dermatitis on my face. It causes me nose area to become BRIGHT red & scaly. This makes my depression alot worse as it creates a social anxiety that is so extreme I cannot even look people in their eyes. I believe I also have the same thing on my penis (I've read it can occur there also). Life is falling so far away from me, it's becoming a struggle to live it anymore. If you have ever felt this way & know what I mean, you know just how scary a feeling it truly is. I do not look joy in life anymore. I do not look the worth of my life anymore, and I just want it to end now. Christmas is in two days & I cannot even stress how much I truly do not care. The best gift I can ever receive is for this mess of a life to be taken away from me. I don't even have money to buy my mom a gift this Christmas. I don't wish to commit suicide, in fact the thought of it alone scares me terribly. I don't WANT to die. I want the life that I had before depression to be given back to me, but I don't believe that's going to happen. I'm 21, I have no job, no friends (well, I have my best pal since early childhood). Everyday I have to hear from my parents "You're 21, receive up & do something with your life, you need to receive a job". They just don't understand how many problems I have that I need to work through before I can even comprehend getting a job. I wish people understood just how debilitating depression truly is, but most don't. Does anyone have ANY advice that I'd be able to use & apply to my life? Thank you guys, and glad Holidays. Please, help me.

23 Dec 2011, 5:05 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: I've been contemplating suicide as of late? Can anyone help me?

Hey everyone, first I'd like to wish you every a glad Holiday. I'm 21, and I've dealt with depression for the past 3 years. For the past year, it's been severe. Before I became depressed, I had a gorgeous girlfriend in highschool, I had friends, and a good life every around. Along with depression, I suffer from OCD. Since I was young, I've had to deal with a grandfather who was an alcoholic. He'd receive wasted drunk & soil him pants after coming home from the bar (both ways). Just now infact, I was downstairs getting a drink while barefoot & had to maneuver around his urine trail on the kitchen floor. In the past I've even stepped in it on occasion. So in the past year (being that I have OCD) I've also pretty much thrown out every article of clothing I owned due to believing it was 'contaminated'. From what? I have no idea. So I'm (literally) left with one outfit that I've worn for the past year, the same jeans, socks, underwear, T-shirts & hoodie. I only possess one pair of underwear, socks, and jeans. They are washed with each use, but I still feel like a scumbag wearing the same outfit everyday but I have no choice because I don't have any money, and I threw every my clothes out. Last December I attempted to be Tim "The Toolman" Taylor and patch a 6 foot crack along the bottom of my wall with Kitchen/Bath caulking. I used silent alot. As it cured, or 'dried' it let out fumes and they have sunk into EVERYTHING in my room. Clothes, bedding, you name it. I hate sleeping in my bed anymore because it smells of the caulk, and when I wake up I odor like it also. It's been this way for a year, and I cannot stand it anymore. I hate going to bed. I'm afraid I'm going to receive cancer or another illness because I spend alot of my time in my room, as I did when it was curing also. I also have Sebborheic Dermatitis on my face. It causes me nose area to become BRIGHT red & scaly. This makes my depression alot worse as it creates a social anxiety that is so extreme I cannot even look people in their eyes. I believe I also have the same thing on my penis (I've read it can occur there also). Life is falling so far away from me, it's becoming a struggle to live it anymore. If you have ever felt this way & know what I mean, you know just how scary a feeling it truly is. I do not look joy in life anymore. I do not look the worth of my life anymore, and I just want it to end now. Christmas is in two days & I cannot even stress how much I truly do not care. The best gift I can ever receive is for this mess of a life to be taken away from me. I don't even have money to buy my mom a gift this Christmas. I don't wish to commit suicide, in fact the thought of it alone scares me terribly. I don't WANT to die. I want the life that I had before depression to be given back to me, but I don't believe that's going to happen. I'm 21, I have no job, no friends (well, I have my best pal since early childhood). Everyday I have to hear from my parents "You're 21, receive up & do something with your life, you need to receive a job". They just don't understand how many problems I have that I need to work through before I can even comprehend getting a job. I wish people understood just how debilitating depression truly is, but most don't. Does anyone have ANY advice that I'd be able to use & apply to my life? Thank you guys, and glad Holidays. Please, help me.

23 Dec 2011, 5:04 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Lump on the side of my face (jaw bone)?

I have a protrusion on the right side of my face, possibly upper jaw, right in front of my tragus on my ear. I can talk and eat with minimal discomfort, but the lump is solid and very painful. If I place pressure on it, the whole right side of my face goes into extreme pain. I've never had any injuries to my face or any dental problems. I have no idea what it is, but it is definitely stemming from the bone in my face. Could it be bone cancer? My doctor seems unconcerned since its the holiday season and the office is closed until after next Tuesday, but I am very worried. What could it be? Any advice helps. Thanks so much.

23 Dec 2011, 4:08 pm | click here to view more

Voting Question: I dont want to be no more?

I might only be quite young but the truth is my life is a complete and utter misery infact I have never seen anyone with a worst life I would rather have cancer or be anything else because dying isnt the worst thing in life believe me. I cannot explain the issues because its everything when I say everything I truely do mean every single thing imaginable and unimaginable I'd have to write a book just to start explaining and quite frankly you just would not believe it. With Xmas coming up it just adds more fuel to the flame most people my age recieve huge amount of nice gifts 100s of cards etc but more importantly they have people friends family who adore them and would do anything and everything for them. I wont have 1 card not 1 never mind gifts and its not like he cant afford it just basically hes tight fisted and mean spirited in every my life hes not given me 1 nice bday or xmas but again thats nothing absolutely nothing in comparison to everything else. Not only do most people survive and endure life but mostly its filled with happiness adore excitement care free attitude etc but for me every living moment is pure torture and basically im trapped. I have two options 1. Continue to live with no hopes and no prospects for the future continue to live with no life no adore no happiness continue to suffer horrifc ordeals and then seeing horrible people being glad with great lifes. ETC ETC ETC ETC 2. Top myself but most likely it wont kill me instead it just causes damage i.e brain or liver and just cause me extreme fatal damage and the same goes for any other method. Just attempting it takes alot of courage and of course it scares you but its not a problem you just have to do whatever it takes. If I talked about the sadness and the painfulness in my life I would be writing for hours and hours so I just want to keep it short and simple. Im a guy who turned 22 recently and in theory life should have only started for me but for me Ive been dead now for many years every month every year that passes just somehow gets worst and worst which youd think is impossible considering. I am not exaggerating when I say that my life is one of the worst anywhere the truth is its so unimaginable especially people would find it difficult to believe but for me the reality is with me every second. I dont know where to start because theres not just 2 or 3 reasons why im so upset and unhappy its everything its thousands and thousands of reasons in every honesty I was doomed from the second I was born. My parents split at an early age and the only thing I remember is my dad hitting my mum so for next 10 hours I lived with my mum and for 8 of those years I was very content even though we moved alot and being unsettled I was glad enough. However we then moved back where we used to live and not long after my mum met a guy who at first was alright but then she became obsessed with him and once he was in her life I didnt exist anymore. She used to talk about how they would start their possess family and I wasnt involved in it so eventually I left and after that I only saw her twice in 5 years before she died in 07 with liver cancer. Was I unhappy? for a few days but in the end its difficult to have huge adore for someone who tried to do damage to me going to my school and pretending that I had hit her just bad manipulated things like that.. Anyway after I left my mum I went live with my dad even though I knew he didnt adore me although in actual fact the first 2 months were good then after reality sank in. He has never loved me and never will for him its always been about what I can do him rather than other way round he didnt have me until his mid 40s by which time he had been a dad for over 20 years.He has never ever done anything to go out his way to make me glad never wants to spend any money on gifts foriegn holidays or anything that would cost him money. Forget that though more importantly he has never ever cared for me in the slightest im not going to detail but nobody has destroyed my life and nobody has destroyed me more than him. When I turned 20 he no longer got child money so he forced me to go down the job middle and sign on just so he could receive more money even though it should be me earning the money everyweek he virtually pinches it every. I used to have a bank book now I have a card just so its convenient for him to take out what he wants but yet if I want anything I have to buy for it myself. I was thinking about booking a flight to somewhere really icy like -30 odd and just freezing to death or maybe I could buy some sleeping tablets and mix it with vodka I just duno but I'l do whatever it takes because you look im only alive in spirit and now I must end it once and for every. Suggestions and methods written down below Thanks x

23 Dec 2011, 12:09 pm | click here to view more

Voting Question: Why can't we be secure in the world we live in today?

This goes out to every religion/belief out there. Including: Christianity Muslims Judaism Satanists Buddhists Pagans Agnostics Atheists Scientology And anybody I may have missed. Why can't we every just adore each other for who we are this holiday season, Christians, why do you hate homosexuals anyone who disagrees with you? Can't we just feel secure in this world we live in? Satanists (Not every Satanists!) why do you sympathize with the Nazis? They believed in killing anyone who was different, and Adolf Hitler was a Christian, this is well documented! Christianity, doesn't the bible say to adore your neighbor? Then why hate us homosexuals? Or anyone who is different? Muslims, why do you want to believe that you are always right, when even your Qur'an was written by man? Like every other book on earth? Why can't we every just receive together, and not care about who believes what, or who is what? Atheists/Agnostics, why do you insist on forcing your beliefs on those who aren't hurting anyone? I can look those who hate on others because of that, but when you force your beliefs on others just because they believe in something, doesn't that make you what you are fighting against? Pagans, Buddhists, I know you stand for peace, so why do some of you, not every of you, judge others? Scientology, why do you control your members like a cult? Shouldn't these modern times be about empowering mankind instead of controlling them, no matter what you believe in? every of these messages are not valid to everyone. I know everyone isn't extreme like those who are mentioned here. And everybody has a right to voice there opinion like I am doing right now. But please don't force it on others, and hurt minorities such as homosexuals, Jewish people, or any other religion, African Americans, Hispanics, or any other minority. Society always will be split upon beliefs, so I ask of you to consider this, and move forwards with society, a society where YOU can have your beliefs, and I can have mine! Where we don't have to hurt anyone based upon our beliefs! A neutral society basically. Why can't we have this? Then Matthew, why try to cease gay marriage if it's just sin in your beliefs? And if the world truly is fine the way it is, then why do we still have so much problems? And do you not realize the church is controlled by people? And not a deity? John, I can look you are a lost cause. And Tia, I can look you are progressive with this, and you can look it in a more lighter view. God is my Salvation, this sounds pretty ignorant, since there is NO proof of this being a sin, or not a sin, and yes it is well documented, read Mein Kampf. You claim to battle against sin, but you are just fighting against adore, you say we are bad? I'm gay, and I want only adore. So you sir are blatantly wrong. Tree Top, you and other Christians really seem to adore to use Satan as a scapegoat don't you? Can't you just settle down and realize that in the end we are every human, and we every have a meaning?

22 Dec 2011, 8:08 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Looking for advice for a separated couple with children for the holidays?

Hi, Ive been separated for a about two years. We share two kids 8 and 4. He won't divorce me even though he said he married me because we had a child together before marriage 2nd child was conceived after marriage. He admitted he has been unhappy for a while and that he married me because he wanted to give our child a family. The last year of our marriage I did run up a high credit card bill because I went to visit my sick dad in another country and the phone calls did add up to be quite a bit. We became very finacially strained because of that. I can not afford a divorce due to paying for my daughters daycare and being clip off finacially from him. I work for his parents which is torture he makes my life hell he bullies me calls me names Ive been cooperative even though we have no set custody arrangment I have let my kids go to Florida with his parents weekends away and have shared every holiday with him. My car recently broke and he was supposed to help repair it he decided he didnt want too help. Now since he has continued to bully me I told him since Christmas eve and Christmas day our my set days with the kids I would not allow him to look them, I know this may seem extreme, but Ive had enough he bullies me constantly if he never loved me divorce me and move on...why every the drama tension why not focus on being a good parent and putting our differences aside for the sake of our kids. I feel like I need to do something bold to show him Im not putting up with his antics drama anymore he has been physical with me infront of the the kids and yesterday he came into my job and yelled in my office and his dad just hid in his office. That was the last straw? any advice from parents out there? Am I doing the right thing?

22 Dec 2011, 11:33 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Will they give me an ultrasound with all this pain?

So at 3:30am this morning I woke up and had cramps then I got constant nausea and almost threw up a few times. I took a warm bath but couldn't fall back to snooze until after 5am. Woke up at around 10 am and had the slight cramps and still nausea. Not too much nausea now but probably around 3pm I got cramps again. Died down a little but they've been back since and before I've felt this I was at my doc in early December and she said that cramping is normal in early pregnancy as long as there is no bleeding. But I just read that constant cramping should be mentioned to your doctor. Well I'm not bleeding but this cramping is slightly worse then the cramps I receive 2 days before I usually have my period. I never had nausea this bad or cramping so I'm very worried. I've also never had any of this with my first. I've also had several sharp pains in my middle abdomen and got abdominal pain with the extreme nausea. Also sharp pain in my lower abdomen. This doesn't feel normal to me since I've had constant cramps since 3 pm. I look my doctor on the 4th. I am 8 weeks and some days. I called today hut the whole clinic is closed for the holidays it said. Theres no point in going in tomorrow since my appointment is the 4th anyways. Yes I know nausea is normal in pregnancy. Do you think with every this pain I've been having they'll give me an ultrasound??? This is constant pain that makes it difficult to fall back asleep and I barely eat anything when I'm in this much pain. I've gotten on and off slightly painful cramps but nothing this painful and nothing that lasts for hours. Again I'm not bleeding but still. These cramps are where I receive my period cramps.

2 Jan 2012, 9:48 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Help with handeling my boyfriend's strict muslim parents?

My boyfriend now lives 175 miles away from me. In June, we plan on moving in with each other, or at least I will move closer to where his parents live if he chooses to stay at home during college. Until then, we want to look each other often, but it seems like I have to be the one who comes to him. $40.00 or so in gas and a 3 1/2 hour steer might not seem like too much once in a while, but if we want to look each other once a week or so, it might be difficult for me after a while. If that is the way it has to be, I am willing to sacrifice the time and money for someone I really adore. His parents are wealthy muslim pakistanis that possess a successfull business in his town. They do not know he's gay, and only think we are friends that study together. (They even think I live nearby on the weekends, and I live south during the week because he said my parents were divorced, which was lie no. 2) They seem extremely strict from what he has said. They also think I'm a muslim, but thats a different story haha. If I want him to be able to arrive down and look me so it lightens the load on me, we have to make up a bizzare lie to convince them to let him arrive down. It would take a lot of fake-explaining, and my parents would have to be lied to too, because his parents would want to talk to my parents on the phone or something like that. (My parents know I'm gay, but don't know I have a boyfriend). We would have to lie to explain how we know each other, and think of a good excuse for him to steer 175 miles to spend the night (parents dont like him driving at night). I don't like every these lies, but until were both graduated, and I move to where he is, it has to happen. This is not typical teenage adore anymore. We have made a mature relationship out of being there for each other when the other is in extreme pain, have learned how to trust and respect each other, and he has even talked of marriage after he finishes college. I don't want to mess up the relationship with his parents or family, but they will find out sooner or later. He says that I have been there for him so much when they haven't, and he thinks it would be worth it, but I think it's possible that he will miss his family anyway when things like holidays or birthdays arrive around. I also don't want them to find out, because he wants to go to medical/international business school, and it wouldn't be right if his future could be at risk because of his relationship with me. I don't know what is going to happen, I just need advice.

17 Jan 2012, 9:29 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: Having a boyfriend that has strict muslim parents?

My boyfriend now lives 175 miles away from me. In June, we plan on moving in with each other, or at least I will move closer to where his parents live if he chooses to stay at home during college. Until then, we want to look each other often, but it seems like I have to be the one who comes to him. $40.00 or so in gas and a 3 1/2 hour steer might not seem like too much once in a while, but if we want to look each other once a week or so, it might be difficult for me after a while. If that is the way it has to be, I am willing to sacrifice the time and money for someone I really adore. His parents are wealthy muslim pakistanis that possess a successfull business in his town. They do not know he's gay, and only think we are friends that study together. (They even think I live nearby on the weekends, and I live south during the week because he said my parents were divorced, which was lie no. 2) They seem extremely strict from what he has said. They also think I'm a muslim, but thats a different story haha. If I want him to be able to arrive down and look me so it lightens the load on me, we have to make up a bizzare lie to convince them to let him arrive down. It would take a lot of fake-explaining, and my parents would have to be lied to too, because his parents would want to talk to my parents on the phone or something like that. (My parents know I'm gay, but don't know I have a boyfriend). We would have to lie to explain how we know each other, and think of a good excuse for him to steer 175 miles to spend the night (parents dont like him driving at night). I don't like every these lies, but until were both graduated, and I move to where he is, it has to happen. This is not typical teenage adore anymore. We have made a mature relationship out of being there for each other when the other is in extreme pain, have learned how to trust and respect each other, and he has even talked of marriage after he finishes college. I don't want to mess up the relationship with his parents or family, but they will find out sooner or later. He says that I have been there for him so much when they haven't, and he thinks it would be worth it, but I think it's possible that he will miss his family anyway when things like holidays or birthdays arrive around. I also don't want them to find out, because he wants to go to medical/international business school, and it wouldn't be right if his future could be at risk because of his relationship with me. I don't know what is going to happen, I just need advice.

17 Jan 2012, 8:33 am | click here to view more

Voting Question: How long should I wait and how many purchases can I make a month without turning into a spoiled brat?

Im fourteen. Around the holidays I end up turning a bit greedier than usual. My parents spent a little more than half of what they spent on my sisters so they told me to let them know if I ever want anything. My parents have no backbone. I could ask for the world and they'd give it to me. The only problem is that I've watched how it turned my one sister into an extreme brat and I could never live myself if I was like that. I have been slightly more demanding than usual and have recently made some purchases and am afraid that I'm starting to turn into a spoiled brat. Im starting to look the signs of it and need to quickly reverse it and receive back onto the right track.Don't giggle at me, I'm 100% serious about every of this. So how long should I wait till I start shopping again and at what pace should I store at?

15 Jan 2012, 8:51 pm | click here to view more

Resolved Question: 29 year old son verbally abusive to my mother in law?

I have been engaged for 3 years and for the holidays we travled to visit my fiance's family in the east coast. We stayed at his parents home for the 3rd time since I first met his family. They only have 2 sons (my fiance) and his older brother who is 29 years old (my soon to be brother in law). My brother in law was diagnosed with ADHD when he was very young and I understand that kids have problems solving academic problems as well as social/anger managment problems... but as a human being I can't stand how he speaks to his mom. He yells at her for no reason... calls her a horses ass, when he is hungry he demands food from her when she is clearly sleepy from working 2 jobs in one day. One night she makes him a sandwitch after he verbally abused him and he took 1 bite and threw it at the kitchen counter saying this is discusting. I spoke with my fiance about it and said that he has always been this way. My fiance hates him for treating his mom like this. She does everything for him and he can't respect her. Its like walking on egg shells. One time she was putting clothes away in his closet and she tries to talk to him. I guess he was in the middle of a video game and he loses... he yelled at her to "receive the f out of my room" I talk to her and tell her does he always talk to you like this... and she said well I interupted his game. In my mind I said oh so i guess its okay for him to talk to you like that because you where putting his clean clothes away and wanted to know where to put something. Another night he was very nasty to her and he stormed out of the home took the car to go out with his girl pal to the movies. His mom was so worried about him because he usually calls to let her know he got there. The mom was so worked up and figured to go out to take her mind of things. Well we got in the car she was feeling sick and ended up vomitting on herself due to extreme anxiety. I guess later when she told him what happened he just laughted... and thought it was silly how she vomitted every overherself because of his abuse His dad doesn't help at every they are both very passive and justify and NORMALIZE his abusive behavior. On new years he got sick and man was he worse and very nasty. Well I personally had it and said "I don't care how sick you are you shouldn't talk to your mom like that" He got mad and told me to go f myself. My fiance told him to receive the f out of the home. Brother in law got madder and pushed the huge christmas tree twards us. Lucklly it didn't fall. My fiance had it and they got into a fist battle. We called the cops and told them everything. Of course they didn't do anything and said oh its just a brotherly brawl... blah blah..... and suggested to take him to the hospital. Well not sure if they saw a psychiatrist or just a medical doctor but they said he was "acting out because of lack of snooze" he blamed us that we were keeping him tardy up at night playing board games. That was a bunch of BS but the parents bought it or used it as a tool to justify his behavior. I don't know what to do... my fiance and I do not want to go back to that home ever again unless he is gone. No one understands his family just justifies it and says well its their son they need to support him they can't just kick him out of his home. He is a 29 year old man who is horrible twards his parents and they do nothing. I don't know what to do. I don't like them being verbally abused but they don't do anything to help. Just wanted to know if anyone has experiened this and what they did to help for a better future.

14 Jan 2012, 5:10 am | click here to view more

Voting Question: I have lived in uni accommodation for a few weeks + I don't feel I'm getting lose w/ my flatmates? I am?

I am a 1st year male undergraduate at university, and I moved into accommodation 2 weeks before the Christmas holiday, as I was put on the waiting list. I have now lived in it for about 3 weeks altogether now. I had high hopes when I first moved in as every the flatmates were quite welcoming toward me, but as time has went on, I have become very introspective into how close I'm getting to them. I find them quite nice people, as none of them are too "extreme" for my taste. There are 2 other boys and 3 girls. But everytime I talk to them, I feel as though I can't toss myself into a proper string of conversation with them, because I always seem to feel insecure of whether they really like me or not. I feel extremely left out, because the girls' friends regularly visit the flat, and I feel as though I'm left out of the "loop" since they are always giving each other hugs and telling jokes to each other, whereas sometimes I feel as though they act like a responsive PC when they talk to me. Instances that have left me very demoralised with them, include the first time I went out clubbing with them, in which they were every dragging each other into photos, whereas it seemed as though they never bothered with me, and a lot of them ended up having loads of drunken snogs between each other, which is very off-putting to me as I have never had a sexual relationship; and this ended up with me walking home alone from the nightclub. Also, when the Christmas holiday began, one of the female flatmates posted on facebook a farewell to everyone, including regular visitors to the flat.....except me, and this left me confused and mad. I would like to think that I prefer living with them, because they're approachable people, but everyday, I ask myself the question of: Are they not acting as close with me as they are the other flatmates because I haven't known them that long, or is it because of my shy personality, and they find something off-putting about me. I have been very friendly and giving to them as well. After the Christmas holiday, I feel as though I have gotten closer to them, since one girl even sensed that I was feeling left out, and I opened up to her that I was, which made me feel a lot better. I think I have grown quite fond of this girl as well, because I feel as though I can talk to her the easiest, as she is the only one I have told that I am on anti-depressants. But they still tend to do things that I feel as though I still can't, like freely walk into each other's rooms and pick at each other's food. I regularly watch films with them, sit in the lounge with them and keep my door open to make me seem more accessible. But I sense that one of the girls acts very icy toward me, as she'll say hello to me and respond to my questions, but she seems to avoid eye contact a lot and doesn't act with me like she does the relax of the flat. But I still feel extremely left out when they are giving each other hugs and talking loudly when I'm in my room, because it seems to be an aspect of feeling left out. I also seem to be left out of the "loop" like jokes and surprises and every that. But overall, this is eating me up, and something which from other people's points of view would seem quite trivial, has actually drove me to suicidal/extreme thoughts, as I have not ate for 2 days at the gift time, just water. Please console me on this. Thank you

14 Jan 2012, 3:27 pm | click here to view more

Voting Question: I have lived in uni accommodation for about 3 weeks now + I don't feel I'm getting lose w/ my flatmates?

I am a 1st year male undergraduate at university, and I moved into accommodation 2 weeks before the Christmas holiday, as I was put on the waiting list. I have now lived in it for about 3 weeks altogether now. I had high hopes when I first moved in as every the flatmates were quite welcoming toward me, but as time has went on, I have become very introspective into how close I'm getting to them. I find them quite nice people, as none of them are too "extreme" for my taste. There are 2 other boys and 3 girls. But everytime I talk to them, I feel as though I can't toss myself into a proper string of conversation with them, because I always seem to feel insecure of whether they really like me or not. I feel extremely left out, because the girls' friends regularly visit the flat, and I feel as though I'm left out of the "loop" since they are always giving each other hugs and telling jokes to each other, whereas sometimes I feel as though they act like a responsive PC when they talk to me. Instances that have left me very demoralised with them, include the first time I went out clubbing with them, in which they were every dragging each other into photos, whereas it seemed as though they never bothered with me, and a lot of them ended up having loads of drunken snogs between each other, which is very off-putting to me as I have never had a sexual relationship; and this ended up with me walking home alone from the nightclub. Also, when the Christmas holiday began, one of the female flatmates posted on facebook a farewell to everyone, including regular visitors to the flat.....except me, and this left me confused and mad. I would like to think that I prefer living with them, because they're approachable people, but everyday, I ask myself the question of: Are they not acting as close with me as they are the other flatmates because I haven't known them that long, or is it because of my shy personality, and they find something off-putting about me. I have been very friendly and giving to them as well. After the Christmas holiday, I feel as though I have gotten closer to them, since one girl even sensed that I was feeling left out, and I opened up to her that I was, which made me feel a lot better. I think I have grown quite fond of this girl as well, because I feel as though I can talk to her the easiest, as she is the only one I have told that I am on anti-depressants. But they still tend to do things that I feel as though I still can't, like freely walk into each other's rooms and pick at each other's food. I regularly watch films with them, sit in the lounge with them and keep my door open to make me seem more accessible. But I sense that one of the girls acts very icy toward me, as she'll say hello to me and respond to my questions, but she seems to avoid eye contact a lot and doesn't act with me like she does the relax of the flat. But I still feel extremely left out when they are giving each other hugs and talking loudly when I'm in my room, because it seems to be an aspect of feeling left out. But overall, this is eating me up, and something which from other people's points of view would seem quite trivial, has actually drove me to suicidal/extreme thoughts, as I have not ate for 2 days at the gift time, just water. Please console me on this. Thank you

14 Jan 2012, 10:00 am | click here to view more

Voting Question: How do I escape this day-to-day 'hell'?

I'm a 29 year old male, with Crohn's Disease, Ilesotomy (Stoma / Bag), Daily Panic Attacks, Extreme Stress, Agitated-type Depression, PTSD, Hypervigilance, Hyperarousal etc I suffer from Heartburn (GERD), Recent Kidney Stones (thanks to a diet of Vodka and Coke everyday, I suspect), Chest Pain, Hives, High Blood Pressure (150/100) I only turned to the 'drink' to cease the extreme stress symptoms, but I feel it's now got a hold of me. I have dark circles below my eyes, Baldness (and loss of hair on my legs!), Weight Gain around the middle, + disturbing Liver and Kidney results. People seem to think telling me that I 'need a break' will help - but when I DO have a break (i.e a Holiday/Vacation away), I seem to take every the stress and the symptoms with me! I've been prescribed Fluoxetine (Prozac) 20mg, but I'm scared of the Nausea & Diarrhea I might experience, what with having Crohn's Disease and an Ileostomy (bag). I'm literally at breaking point. I don't feel suicidal - just agitated, restless, unable to snooze and like my life is going nowhere. I know WHAT I want to do with my life, but I just can't grasp it - feeling like this everyday. Where on earth do I start? Any help is much appreciated. Thanks guys. MILITVM XPISTI - Thank You so much for your answer. I cried .. because you hit the nail on the head so well. Your response is just perfect, and has given me the faith and directon that I needed. Bless you Bro. :)

12 Jan 2012, 7:27 pm | click here to view more

Voting Question: Ending a long distance relationship?

Hi every Ive been in a Long Distance Relationship for 3 years now, its not as extreme as some, we are just over 3 hours apart, and spend friday to sunday together every week without fail. every our holidays are used to spend extra time together. We talk every day, every our dinnertime is spent emailing, and we talk on the phone every night. The time together is always fantastic.. we dont ever battle or argue, i adore her very much and we totally trust each other. However we have struggled for probably a year now to find a way to be together- we both have safe jobs we have had for 20 years- so initially looked at somewhere inbetween where we could both do long commutes to work, but it wasnt affordable with the travel costs (combined travel costs were absurd). My partner has moved to live with a partner before and it quickly went wrong (luckily she got her old job back) so she wont even consider giving her job up to move to my area.. so the onus was on me to switch jobs Ive spent nearly six months now looking for a good job in her area, and although ive had a few interviews its got me nowhere, the job market in the UK is awful. Its also made me review wether i should leave a completely safe job of 20 years in the first place!. If made redundant in a new position i could be unemployed for a long time. But as much as i adore my partner i dont look the point in a relationship with no future? Weekends are blissful, but in the week im pretty much miserable and lonely every the time- do you think i should end this, and let her and myself find someone local? I have conflicting emotions, part of me cant imagine her not in my life, shes my partner AND my best pal, the other logical part of me tells me theres no future in it... and that sick receive over it eventually. Finally if we did split, do you think that despite the relationship being LDR its always best to be face to face rather than on the phone? And do you think that a long period of absoloutly No contact is necessecary to help us receive over things? Thanks Thanks for the feedback To answer you, its her that i miss, not just any company. Most of every its a sense that with the current situation there isn't a future if that makes sense? And there's no way either of us would accept seeing other people in between, or want to for that matter, we have been exclusive since the first time we dated. Thanks harry, regarding spending a week together to look how we receive on, weve spent 3 weeks together before now, and over a week numerous times (i use every my leave with her) so theres no real fears that we wouldnt receive on if living together we just carried on getting on great.

11 Jan 2012, 5:00 am | click here to view more

Resolved Question: I have moved into university accommodation about 4 weeks ago, + I don't feel I'm getting lose w/ my flatmates?

I am a 1st year undergraduate at university, and I moved into accommodation 2 weeks before the Christmas holiday, as I was put on the waiting list. I had high hopes when I first moved in as every the flatmates were quite welcoming toward me, but as time has went on, I have become very introspective into how close I'm getting to them. I find them quite nice people, as none of them are too "extreme" for my taste. There are 2 other boys and 3 girls. But everytime I talk to them, I feel as though I can't toss myself into a proper string of conversation with them, because I always seem to feel insecure of whether they really like me or not. I feel extremely left out, because the girls' friends regularly visit the flat, and I feel as though I'm left out of the "loop" since they are always giving each other hugs and telling jokes to each other, whereas sometimes I feel as though they act like a responsive PC when they talk to me. Instances that have left me very demoralised with them, include the first time I went out clubbing with them, in which they were every dragging each other into photos, whereas it seemed as though they never bothered with me, and a lot of them ended up having loads of drunken snogs between each other, which is very off-putting to me as I have never had a sexual relationship; and this ended up with me walking home alone from the nightclub. Also, when the Christmas holiday began, one of the female flatmates posted on facebook a farewell to everyone, including regular visitors to the flat.....except me, and this left me confused and mad. I would like to think that I prefer living with them, because they're approachable people, but everyday, I ask myself the question of: Are they not acting as close with me as they are the other flatmates because I haven't known them that long, or is it because of my shy personality, and they find something off-putting about me. I have been very friendly and giving to them as well. Please console me on this. Thank you

1 Jan 2012, 5:42 am | click here to view more

Voting Question: Dizzy for a month!!! Please help?

I am 36 yrs old. To start I drank heavily for five years. After the holidays I got a icy, took over the counter icy meds and still drank. Went to the doctor with extreme dizzyness felt like I could pass out. I was diagnosed with high Bp. Started taking amlodipine, stopped drinking changed my diet started feeling better but still dizzy. Switched meds to enlapril and Bp was to low. Went to the ER with heart racing dizzy felt like I was going to pass out. Blood work chest scan EKG every normal. Took me off Bp meds, still dizzy light headed and it's getting worse rapid heart hot and. icy, vomiting, blurred vision. Can't eat, snooze work barely function. Now the doc says I have a virus. I have not drank in a month. I am frustrated and scared. Its been a month now. Can anyone shed some light???

1 Feb 2012, 9:01 am | click here to view more

Voting Question: Great Piscies Man Messed up Ex and Forgiveness?

I met a piscies man while out singing at a bar one Saturday night. He was singing when I walked in and when I was up singing he was blown away and approached me and told me he thought I was pretty talented. He then told me he had a stalking ex girlfriend and asked me about my life. every in every a big click happened especially when we both were singers which i thought5 was awesome. We then spend most of the next week together and eventually this turned into a relationship. He contacted me via text regularly one day 8 hours of text6ing back and forth. He took me out of town to where he used to live and introduced me to every his old friends and everyone liked me and he was just beaming. Anyway when I picked him up for this holiday as we decided to use my car his ex girlfriend was in front of him walking backward trying to receive his attention block his every movement. I was concerned abotu this and he appeared shaken by it too. I told a pal this pal took it upon themselves to report this behavior to her employer as she was in a work vehicle at the time and was in a work uniform. Her employer proceeded with disciplinary action. After that she called him a narc and ran him off the road on his way to work. The following Tuesday her employer contacted me asking for details. I said no way im not talking about this as i felt this was not a wise move. I then rang him and said what had happened he became very mad and said how could you tell anyone about this its not a big issue I can deal with this you had no right. Later that night he text me and said he wast ready for a relationship and that he felt i had behind his back in a way that he wasn't comfortable with. he felt my actions had caused him to receive hurt. Part two to follow! Later that night I rang his ex and asked what every this was about ( as he had told me that she had put his dog to snooze stolen his car reported him to the police one) as it every seemed so extreme. She basically told me I was better off without him and couldn't understand how I had feelings for him. The next Thursday he changed his phone number but contacted me with it and we text each other for a while. The next night I decided to text him and said hey lets go out tomorrow night and have a good time. After three hours i got no answer. I then text him and said oh screw this is this a series of games. He then text back later on a said jesus receive some patience i wanted to go out with you but you did this I had left my phone in my locker and couldn't receive to it as it was raining last night and I didn't want to risk taking the phone with me ( he rides a mountain bike to work as she has the car) That was the last I heard from him until Sunday he then text me and told me his ex was looking for me and was going to assault me. I went to the police and told him I had done this as I needed protection as i lived alone. He said i was being dramatic and over the top. And that this was making it worse. The next monday I text him and asked what he expected I should do. He said withdra the complain lay low and eventually it will blow over. I followed hi9s advice he text me later in the day and said he would contact the ex on her landline and try and diffuse the situation and make it clear to her that i had done nothing. Later that night I contacted him and asked is it done am I safe??? he replied ive lost her number I said clip the crapp its in the white pages and gave it to him. the next day he contacted me and said that he wasnt being every bullbutter and that he had written her a letter and did his best. Later on she contacted me and said nothing would happen to him. I then text him and he said great it worked. So what now I adore him to bits hes everything i ever wanted can this progress ??? I mean is it realistic that i can receive him back or any suggested tactics???

1 Feb 2012, 1:24 am | click here to view more

Voting Question: Dizzy for a month please help! ?

To start I drank heavily for five years. After the holidays I got a icy, took over the counter icy meds and still drank. Went to the doctor with extreme dizzyness felt like I could pass out. I was diagnosed with high Bp. Started taking amlodipine, stopped drinking changed my diet started feeling better but still dizzy. Switched meds to enlapril and Bp was to low. Went to the ER with heart racing dizzy felt like I was going to pass out. Blood work chest scan EKG every normal. Took me off Bp meds, still dizzy light headed and it's getting worse rapid heart hot and. icy, vomiting, blurred vision. Can't eat, snooze work barely function. Now the doc says I have a virus. I have not drank. I am frustrated and scared. Can anyone shed some light???

1 Feb 2012, 12:43 am | click here to view more

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